Is there always two sides to a debate?

I’m not talking little things like which chocolate you like.

I’m talking bigger things, like is racism bad? Should we let LGBTQI people marry? Do Nazis have a point?

Because I think there is a tipping point when most people realise that some things are just wrong, or at the very least not right, and there is no logical or real or scientific argument they have for their side.

Take Charlottesville, which held protests between Nazis (no, they aren’t alt-right) and the left leaning side (*we are all equal) groups. One of the Nazis drove a car into the crowd of not-Nazis and killed one (injured 19).

I don’t think anyone disputes the fact that this was a very bad thing to do. The argument that some use (like Trump) is that there is blame on both sides.

But is there really? I’ve no doubt the lefties are not all good and the Nazis are not all bad. As INDIVIDUALS.

But think of it this,I think we can all agree if you’re a good person, you help old ladies across the road.

If you’re a good Nazi person, you help old, WHITE ladies across the road. If they are of colour, Jewish or any other non Christian religion, disabled, gay or trans, then you don’t help them.

I put forward that this is in fact not a good person. Not all bad (still helps some old ladies) but definitely not good.

It’s not an ethical or moral way to define things if you are separating out old ladies to help by whether they are abled, white, Christian or straight.

Similarly, if you are State you should not be deciding that some people can get married and other people can’t, just because of your religious beliefs (don’t get touchy, I’m talking CONSENTING ADULTS HERE). It’s precisely why religion and State are (sometimes not very well) separated.

If you are in a religion and you object to people of the same gender getting married in your religion, that’s fine. Go hard. Make rules.

But no religion should tell a person who is not a member of that religion how to act –

  • (no you can’t have technology (Amish);
  • what to wear (Islam);
  • whether your sexuality is wrong (most religions); or
  • who you should marry (Judaism, Catholic and Anglican religions until very recently, Sikh).

Just because it happens to be YOUR religion in the majority does not make it OK for a law to be based on it.

If you transpose yourself to another culture, where another religion is dominant, are you still accepting those religious based State rules and laws? Many religions directly clash with each other (although let’s face it, most religions tend to be controlling, hypocritical and secretive organisations run by powerful men – but that’s another blog).

My point is, the debate about same sex marriage is that there is no real debate. There is no evidence to back up any claim that anyone makes about man- woman being the superior coupling for society on a State level.

I’m not going to debunk all the arguments here – there are plenty already doing it out there. Here’s an older, British one, for example. The two main arguments when it boils down to it are –

  1. children are not possible and
  2. men and women biologically ‘fit together’.

But guess what? Just like we changed our minds about working on Sunday, religious or racial intermarriage or stoning adulterers, we’ve changed our mind here –

  1. children can be born to anybody via IVF, and
  2. gay people are, well, quite boringly average, tax paying, working, community minded contributing to society people.

So ultimately the No side has no real points.

It’s just a RELIGIOUS preference.

And that’s fine for your religion but it’s not fine to run a State by, which is why we have the Marriage Act in the first place!

There is no need to spew the hatred of the No side, or the Nazi side (or the no climate change side or the anti vaccination side) because we’ve all moved on to understand as a community some things are just, well, right.

You can disagree but if all you can say is ‘because my religion says it’s wrong’, then that’s the same as saying ‘because I said so!’.

Ultimately, if any religion, State or person asks you to hate someone ‘just because’, I’m not sure you can really argue your side (again, I’m talking consenting adults and reasonable people).

Wishing you all the happiness the Universe can bring


Update on the social addition

So I did delete Tumblr permanently and Candy Crush from one of my iPads.
Do I miss either of them now they are gone? No.
I need to pick my next one carefully though…I'd love to win a cat tattoo and I just entered a comp for that on Instagram. It closes 30/8 so I'll have that until then.
Perhaps Blossom Blast off my phone…

Wishing you all the happiness the Universe can bring


Yesterday we went to a float tank.

It was quite an interesting experience. I’m not sure if I’ll go back or not, although it might be worth another try.

I found it a little warm for me but the sensation of floating was cool! The sensory deprivation was fine – I was not afraid.

I did do some breathing and hopefully expelled some stress in there.

But I did eventually get annoyed at how my neck and shoulders were positioned by the float – they just naturally went in a way that was not good for my neck injury.

I lasted 50 minutes out of the hour but was unfortunately too agitated by the neck to stay in longer.

However, I’m glad that we did it – the lovely initially was uncomfortable but then fell asleep, which was great for her!

My skin feels amazingly soft – the water on your skin felt almost like jelly!

While I was in there I thought that the hypnotherapy would work so well in there for me! You are so able to relax, which I was for the first 20 minutes or so. It would be great to combine the two, although I’m not quite sure how that would work!

I recommend trying it to see how it works for you. We went to one in Canberra called Astral Float, where they were very nice.

Wishing you all the happiness the Universe can bring

Oh my Lady Gaga I’m so over this

Yet again this government has put aside a straight out (no pun intended) parliamentary vote on marriage equality.

The apparent success of many countries that have already done it seems to elude the members of Australia’s 45th Parliament.

Malcolm, the man who has completely abandoned his previous principles (marriage equality, climate change) and capitulated to the religious right of the party to keep pushing this ridiculous plebiscite idea, despite Australia telling him for free what they think about it (they either are for it or don’t care in the largest percentage over those who object – just Google it).

Why does it matter so much?

Is it because the plebiscite itself won’t bind the parliamentarians to actually vote yes to change the Marriage Act? That’s right, all the country is being asked to do is say we want you to vote, not actually we BIND you to vote, in a particular way.

Is it because as same sex couples we pay like straight couples do, but we can’t marry and have the same rights as them?

Is it because my brother can marry but I can’t, simply because of the gender of my partner?

Is it just because it’s 2017 already and Ireland has done it? Malta even! And I don’t see anything terrible happening anywhere in any countries that have legalised it that can be attributed to it (awful bankers and polluting, tax avoiding multinationals but not happily married lesbians).

Is it because it is a choice I simply can’t make for no real reason, except that John Howard decided to change it (without any plebiscite or discussion with the Australian public in the slightest)?

Or perhaps it’s because the debate is going to be particularly toxic and destructive to all gay and lesbian families? Let’s not forget that children of LGBTIQ will be de-legitimised (at the very least) by this debate, not to mention young people bought low (see Hannah Gadsby’s account when the debate raged around legalising of homosexuality in Tasmania).

Regardless, it is well time that the government (of any persuasion) should just get on with it and make us all equal in the eyes of marriage legislation, which after all is a State law, not a religious one.

Wishing you all the happiness the Universe can bring

Tumblr no more

That was hard!

Not just because there were so many cool things on it!

It took ten minutes of frustration to find exactly where to delete it! Finally ended up logging on to the laptop and doing it that way.

One down.

Wishing you all the happiness the Universe can bring

The social addiction

I was watching a Dan Heath video on change the other day and he was talking about how some changes we don’t resist. For example, technology, where he showed a photo of teenagers on their phones and them extrapolated that to their parents also doing the same thing.

For a while now I have felt that I am too connected and not really doing anything meaningful with that connection.

I have Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, Tumbler and this blog. At work I use the internal social media.

To be honest the one I use the most is Facebook, followed by Instagram these days. It used to be Twitter and Tumbler a few years ago – for the connections (I met heaps of great people on Twitter) and the celebrities/porn on Tumbler.

I’m also a Candy Crush and Blossom Blast player, with occasional spurts in Words with Friends, which is currently on.

This morning I have already spent quite a bit of time on devices – I have two iPads and an iPhone. And the laptop I’m now typing on.

To be honest, I hate the time I spend on these creatures – they suck me in and suck the time out of my day. The lovely hates me on them too.

I often threaten myself with deletion and then some little thing comes up and I think, that could be useful…Does that mean I’m a hoarder?

I need to break this habit/addiction – both for myself and as an example to all the teenagers in the house who are similarly addicted.

Over Christmas last year I had a digital detox and read quite a bit and wrote a bit as well. I have a stack of books next to my bed that have been pretty much sitting there since then, and it’s August!

So here’s my commitment – I’m going to minimise my time and addictions one at a time, starting today with Tumbler. It’s the easiest one to get rid of because I’m hardly on it anyway.

I’ll definitely keep Facebook and this blog, as I might actually get back to writing more if I’m not playing or flicking through timelines.

Instagram is generally for the filters, so perhaps I can find something else that does the same thing (any helpful suggestions?).

I forgot I also have Whatsapp but I communicate daily with that so that’s not going anywhere.

Twitter is a hard one because I met so many wonderful people on there – people that I’ve met in real life. Having said that, I can generally contact them in Whatsapp or FB, so no excuses really. I do have 400 followers and I do still talk to some people on there. See what I mean…it’s tricky!

So today, Tumbler.

And Candy Crush off one of the iPads. That’s my start.

Do you have a digital addiction? Do you think you could be more present without the device in your hand all the time? It’s worth thinking about.

(Maybe I’ll just have the last five games of Candy Crush first, before I delete it…)

Wishing you all the happiness the Universe can bring